So this week has been pretty shitty for me when it comes to women. I haven't had any positive female interaction in a long time.
And it's even more ironic how the only interactions that kinda matter to me now are from my ex. 😑
Anyways I'm beginning to notice a pattern in the type of women I seem to keep coming across. At first I thought it was me and maybe I'm just doing things super wrong. But as time goes on im really beginning to think that it really isn't anything in my control to have positive experiences with the women I'm choosing to be around. I've noticed one common denominator in all of this. Out of all the women who have done me dirty, played games with me, and flaked on me I noticed that they have all came from the same place:
Tinder.
It's extremely difficult to build connections on there simply because the women on there do not and refuse to take any interaction seriously. I've been on countless of pointless dates that have went absolutely no where. So many girls on Tinder are clearly all about the attention they recieve. It has nothing at all to do with actually building connections with people. If they aren't about the attention they are have superficial thoughts about how a man is supposed to act when first meeting them. It took me all of 8 months to realize this and it sucks that I'm just now figuring it out.
Late last year and earlier this year I had a brief fling with African girl I met online. But it wasn't through tinder. It was through another dating site called Okcupid. I hated that site too and after a while I decided to say fuck it and I deleted my account. However before I did that I met this African girl (I believe that I nicknamed her M on here.) And if you added all of our time we spent interacting with each other it went on for a good month and a half. Multiple dates, multiple interactions, multiple sexual encounters. Hell she even spent the night over my house. ( ironically she has been the only women to do that so far since me and my ex split.) She stopped talking to me because she realized and I realized that I didn't want anything other than a sexual relationship with her and she wanted something more. But she still stuck around for a while.....
Much longer than any interaction I've made with any of the women I met on Tinder.
I say all of this to say this:
Fuck tinder. It doesn't work for me. And when I REALLY think about it....It never really has.
It's funny how I've only been able to have sex with 2 girls from the app. And neither of them were attractive or my ideal type at all. I still feel pretty bad for lowering my standards so much. Deep down I gurantee these girls knew that I was out of their league and they probably thought I was a loser for letting things get so far with them.
I find It pretty interesting how the girls who seem to be my ideal type will match with me but refuse to respond to any of my messages. Which is why I stooped so low to get those 2 girls in bed.
So all in all, Tinder is wack.
Tinder is dead.
Tinder is a game for most of the folks who use it.
Things have led me to this point and it's been building up for a while now. I just don't see a benefit in dealing with folks who don't want to deal with you and they let this be known rather explicitly. I always knew this day would come, I'm just tired of being lied to and played with.
So basically I'm done with the app. I'm probably going to stop paying for it and more than likely going to start ignoring the fact that the app is even on my phone in the first place. I know now that I have no other options to meet women other than to step to them in person if they are attractive enough to me. I know this comes with tons of rejection and I HATE getting rejected but it is what is.
The more I think about it, I'd rather get rejected in person right off the back then to talk to someone online for a day or two, finally meet up and then get rejected after the the initial meet.
This happens more often than anything else and I'm sick of it. So yeah....
Fuck Tinder.
